Samantha Kehoe, LPC
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THIS IS THE PART PEOPLE DON'T SEE.
A lot of what takes the most out of you
never makes it onto your to-do list.
THE TEXT YOU REWRITE THREE TIMES
THE NO YOU ALREADY KNOW YOU WANT TO GIVE
THE SCHEDULE CHANGE THAT ISN'T YOURS
THE THING NOBODY ASKED YOU TO HANDLE
because you don't want it to come across wrong.
but spend 45 minutes figuring out how to say it thought disappointing someone.
but somehow yours is the first calendar you start rearranging.
but you noticed it, so now it's living in your head.
You're not just carrying what needs to get done.
You're carrying everything you're calculating around it.
THERE'S A COST TO BEING THE ONE WHO CAN HANDLE IT.
Capability tells us what you can handle.
It tells us nothing about what it costs you.
I call it the
Hidden
Mental Tax
The extra thinking, anticipating, adjusting, and managing that gets added to what you're already carrying.
It's why something that looks small on paper can take up an enormous amount of room in your head.
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MEET SAM
I'm a therapist. But I'm also a woman who knows what it's like
to be really good at making things work.
SAMANTHA KEHOE, LPC
Founder of Sole Spark Collective
Therapist + coach for women who handle a lot
Red Bank, NJ
Sole Spark exists to help high-functioning women reduce the hidden mental tax of modern life, and create more capacity for what actually matters to them.
START HERE
Two simple ways to step into
Sole Spark.
You don’t have to be ready for support to find something useful here.
LISTEN
When You Can't Hear Yourself Think
Therapist-created audio resets for the moments when your brain won't shut off. Short, practical support you can press play on whenever you need a moment to yourself.
READ
Worth Her Time
A weekly Substack blending personal stories, honest observations, and fresh perspectives on the mental load, modern womanhood, and making room for a life that's actually yours.
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